Adam's Blog - "Bites"

Welcome to Adam’s short-form Blog!
Here is where I share bite-sized chunks of wisdom about: spirituality, psychology, law of attraction, science, philosophy, politics, diet, religion, meditation, parenting, relationships, dating, sexuality, money, business, creativity, authenticity, new age, systems thinking, holism, esoterica, etc. etc.
I often get great ideas throughout the day and I need an outlet to share them, so here you go.
I also find a lot of insightful / entertaining videos, books, and resources… so here is where I’ll be sharing them.
These insights are meant to be spontaneous, and half-baked.
So check back each day, as I’ll be updating it frequently!
😜✌🏻
First, Relax

First, relax.
Then, relax again.
“But Adam! How will I get to where I want to go?”
Why?
Why do you want to ‘get there?’
So that you can finally relax? 😂
Description Of The “Unitive” Stage Of Ego Development

Here’s a brief description of the unitive stage of ego development from my notes:
UNITIVE
- is now fully embodying the fruits of the spiritual path
- radical, profound authenticity, with progressively lower and lower levels of personal attachment
- frequent mystical experiences, the mystical becomes the normal
- highly sensitive and attuned to intuition, likes to “keep things simple”
- consistent and abiding awareness of one’s own personal union with the “ground” of being, God, Buddha Nature, Christ Consciousness, etc.
- life becomes a profound surrender, and co-creation with God (I allow the “holy spirit” to guide and create through me)
- is able to embody radical levels of compassion, easily forgiving “unconscious people” for their evilness and selfishness
- worship
- a complete and radical acceptance of all parts of oneself and others
- able to make sense of life through many different modalities, (science, tarot, physics, Christianity, Islam, witchcraft, shamanism) all modalities of knowledge are met with an open mind and considered as potentially valuable
- uses all life experiences to “further the path of Bodhi (awakening)” (think about the advantage method)
Preoccupations:
- having fun, poetic, appreciating the eternal mystery of now
- guiding others through spontaneous embodiment , compassion, and naturalness
- cultivating genuine compassion and praying for the welfare of all sentient beings
if you’d like to learn more deeply about the 9 stages of ego development (an extremely important part of understanding the path of personal growth) then please read the attached paper.
It’s important to keep this model in mind when you’re doing self-actualization work so that you know what you’re shooting for.
Remember: getting to the higher stages requires more “deconstruction” than it does “construction.” You’re not going to “build yourself” up to the higher stages. The higher stages are more about tearing away the delusion until the only thing left is your natural shining beauty, intelligence, and goodness
Benefits Of “Listening To God”
I’m going through a deep personal upgrade and transformation where I’m realizing that a lot of the teachings that I’ve been giving over the past few years about “following your highest excitement” are actually deeply encoded into the Abrahamic religions (Judaism, Christianity, and Islam), yet, most people do not see or understand this.
Here, I wanted to share a long passage from the book of Deuteronomy that I found recently…
when it says “follow the Law of God,”
in your mind, you should replace “follow the Law of God” with: “follow the feeling of Love, Peace, and Joy within my heart.”
For, that is how God talks to you, which, we will see in the following passage:
Blessings for Obedience
28 If you fully obey the Lord your God and carefully follow all his commands I give you today, the Lord your God will set you high above all the nations on earth. 2 All these blessings will come on you and accompany you if you obey the Lord your God:
3 You will be blessed in the city and blessed in the country.
4 The fruit of your womb will be blessed, and the crops of your land and the young of your livestock—the calves of your herds and the lambs of your flocks.
5 Your basket and your kneading trough will be blessed.
6 You will be blessed when you come in and blessed when you go out.
7 The Lord will grant that the enemies who rise up against you will be defeated before you. They will come at you from one direction but flee from you in seven.
8 The Lord will send a blessing on your barns and on everything you put your hand to. The Lord your God will bless you in the land he is giving you.
9 The Lord will establish you as his holy people, as he promised you on oath, if you keep the commands of the Lord your God and walk in obedience to him. 10 Then all the peoples on earth will see that you are called by the nameof the Lord, and they will fear you. 11 The Lord will grant you abundant prosperity—in the fruit of your womb, the young of your livestock and the crops of your ground—in the land he swore to your ancestors to give you.
12 The Lord will open the heavens, the storehouse of his bounty, to send rainon your land in season and to bless all the work of your hands. You will lend to many nations but will borrow from none. 13 The Lord will make you the head, not the tail. If you pay attention to the commands of the Lord your God that I give you this day and carefully follow them, you will always be at the top, never at the bottom. 14 Do not turn aside from any of the commands I give you today, to the right or to the left, following other gods and serving them.
Curses for Disobedience
15 However, if you do not obey the Lord your God and do not carefully follow all his commands and decrees I am giving you today, all these curses will come on you and overtake you:
16 You will be cursed in the city and cursed in the country.
17 Your basket and your kneading trough will be cursed.
18 The fruit of your womb will be cursed, and the crops of your land, and the calves of your herds and the lambs of your flocks.
19 You will be cursed when you come in and cursed when you go out.
20 The Lord will send on you curses, confusion and rebuke in everything you put your hand to, until you are destroyed and come to sudden ruin because of the evil you have done in forsaking him.[a] 21 The Lord will plague you with diseases until he has destroyed you from the land you are entering to possess. 22 The Lord will strike you with wasting disease, with fever and inflammation, with scorching heat and drought, with blight and mildew, which will plague you until you perish. 23 The sky over your head will be bronze, the ground beneath you iron. 24 The Lord will turn the rain of your country into dust and powder; it will come down from the skies until you are destroyed.
25 The Lord will cause you to be defeated before your enemies. You will come at them from one direction but flee from them in seven, and you will become a thing of horror to all the kingdoms on earth. 26 Your carcasses will be food for all the birds and the wild animals, and there will be no one to frighten them away. 27 The Lord will afflict you with the boils of Egypt and with tumors, festering sores and the itch, from which you cannot be cured. 28 The Lordwill afflict you with madness, blindness and confusion of mind. 29 At midday you will grope about like a blind person in the dark. You will be unsuccessful in everything you do; day after day you will be oppressed and robbed, with no one to rescue you.
30 You will be pledged to be married to a woman, but another will take her and rape her. You will build a house, but you will not live in it. You will plant a vineyard, but you will not even begin to enjoy its fruit. 31 Your ox will be slaughtered before your eyes, but you will eat none of it. Your donkey will be forcibly taken from you and will not be returned. Your sheep will be given to your enemies, and no one will rescue them. 32 Your sons and daughters will be given to another nation, and you will wear out your eyes watching for them day after day, powerless to lift a hand. 33 A people that you do not know will eat what your land and labor produce, and you will have nothing but cruel oppression all your days. 34 The sights you see will drive you mad. 35 The Lord will afflict your knees and legs with painful boils that cannot be cured, spreading from the soles of your feet to the top of your head.
36 The Lord will drive you and the king you set over you to a nation unknown to you or your ancestors. There you will worship other gods, gods of wood and stone. 37 You will become a thing of horror, a byword and an object of ridicule among all the peoples where the Lord will drive you.
38 You will sow much seed in the field but you will harvest little, because locusts will devour it. 39 You will plant vineyards and cultivate them but you will not drink the wine or gather the grapes, because worms will eat them.40 You will have olive trees throughout your country but you will not use the oil, because the olives will drop off. 41 You will have sons and daughters but you will not keep them, because they will go into captivity. 42 Swarms of locusts will take over all your trees and the crops of your land.
43 The foreigners who reside among you will rise above you higher and higher, but you will sink lower and lower. 44 They will lend to you, but you will not lend to them. They will be the head, but you will be the tail.
45 All these curses will come on you. They will pursue you and overtake youuntil you are destroyed, because you did not obey the Lord your God and observe the commands and decrees he gave you. 46 They will be a sign and a wonder to you and your descendants forever. 47 Because you did not servethe Lord your God joyfully and gladly in the time of prosperity, 48 therefore in hunger and thirst, in nakedness and dire poverty, you will serve the enemies the Lord sends against you. He will put an iron yoke on your neck until he has destroyed you.
49 The Lord will bring a nation against you from far away, from the ends of the earth, like an eagle swooping down, a nation whose language you will not understand, 50 a fierce-looking nation without respect for the old or pity for the young. 51 They will devour the young of your livestock and the crops of your land until you are destroyed. They will leave you no grain, new wine or olive oil, nor any calves of your herds or lambs of your flocks until you are ruined. 52 They will lay siege to all the cities throughout your land until the high fortified walls in which you trust fall down. They will besiege all the cities throughout the land the Lord your God is giving you.
53 Because of the suffering your enemy will inflict on you during the siege, you will eat the fruit of the womb, the flesh of the sons and daughters the Lord your God has given you. 54 Even the most gentle and sensitive man among you will have no compassion on his own brother or the wife he loves or his surviving children, 55 and he will not give to one of them any of the flesh of his children that he is eating. It will be all he has left because of the suffering your enemy will inflict on you during the siege of all your cities. 56 The most gentle and sensitive woman among you—so sensitive and gentle that she would not venture to touch the ground with the sole of her foot—will begrudge the husband she loves and her own son or daughter 57 the afterbirth from her womb and the children she bears. For in her dire need she intends to eat them secretly because of the suffering your enemy will inflict on you during the siege of your cities.
58 If you do not carefully follow all the words of this law, which are written in this book, and do not revere this glorious and awesome name—the Lord your God— 59 the Lord will send fearful plagues on you and your descendants, harsh and prolonged disasters, and severe and lingering illnesses. 60 He will bring on you all the diseases of Egypt that you dreaded, and they will cling to you. 61 The Lord will also bring on you every kind of sickness and disaster not recorded in this Book of the Law, until you are destroyed. 62 You who were as numerous as the stars in the sky will be left but few in number, because you did not obey the Lord your God. 63 Just as it pleased the Lord to make you prosper and increase in number, so it will please him to ruin and destroy you.You will be uprooted from the land you are entering to possess.
64 Then the Lord will scatter you among all nations, from one end of the earth to the other. There you will worship other gods—gods of wood and stone, which neither you nor your ancestors have known. 65 Among those nations you will find no repose, no resting place for the sole of your foot. There the Lord will give you an anxious mind, eyes weary with longing, and a despairing heart. 66 You will live in constant suspense, filled with dread both night and day, never sure of your life. 67 In the morning you will say, “If only it were evening!” and in the evening, “If only it were morning!”—because of the terror that will fill your hearts and the sights that your eyes will see. 68 The Lord will send you back in ships to Egypt on a journey I said you should never make again. There you will offer yourselves for sale to your enemies as male and female slaves, but no one will buy you.
and… it continues through Deuteronomy 29 – 30.
Here’s a highlight from Deuteronomy 30:
“11 Now what I am commanding you today is not too difficult for you or beyond your reach. 12 It is not up in heaven, so that you have to ask, “Who will ascend into heaven to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?” 13 Nor is it beyond the sea, so that you have to ask, “Who will cross the sea to get it and proclaim it to us so we may obey it?” 14 No, the word is very near you; it is in your mouth and in your heart so you may obey it.
15 See, I set before you today life and prosperity, death and destruction. 16 For I command you today to love the Lord your God, to walk in obedience to him, and to keep his commands, decrees and laws; then you will live and increase, and the Lord your God will bless you in the land you are entering to possess.”
Isn’t that so nice? 🥹
The key idea here is that when you act on Love (the law of God) then your life will be beautiful and heavenly. But, if you stray away from Love… and instead act on fear/worry that you “won’t have enough,” then your life will become a living hell… because you have forsaken your own True Path.
The mistake here would be to confuse “the Laws of God” as some sort of ‘commandment’ that has been written into some piece of stone somewhere.
The primary “Law of God” is to listen to Him.
(The first commandment according to the Old Testament and according to Jesus is: to love God above all else)
What this actually means in practice is to realize that God is guiding you in each moment through the feeling of ‘resonance’ in your heart.
Inspect your actions closely.
When you stand up to do something, ask yourself:
“Is this action that I am about to do motivated by fear? Or is it motivated by love?”
What’s the difference?
Let’s dive into it a bit, shall we?
Actions Motivated By Fear:
- feeling “rushed”
- “backed into a corner”
- “I have no choice!”
- “I have to!”
- “If I don’t do it, something bad will happen!”
- “What if I run out of food?”
- “What will they think of me if I don’t do this?”
- “It’s my ‘duty’!”
- “It’s my ‘responsibility’!”
- “I really don’t want to do it, but, it’ll make this other person feel good, so I’ll just do it.”
- “What if miss out!”
- “It’s my job to ‘save them’!”
Examples:
- Putting too much effort into your marketing project, email, or text message that you’re sending someone because you’re afraid that if you don’t “write it perfectly,” you’ll lose their interest.
- Being obsessed with money.
- Being obsessed with your looks, status, or appearance.
etc.
All of these actions are motivated by the fear of “not enough.”
The idea of: “if I don’t figure it all out myself… then something bad will happen to me (or others).”
Is exactly what keeps you apart from the Kingdom of God.
When such a person hears the words of this oath and they invoke a blessing on themselves, thinking, “I will be safe, even though I persist in going my own way,” they will bring disaster on the watered land as well as the dry. The Lord will never be willing to forgive them; his wrath and zeal will burn against them. All the curses written in this book will fall on them, and the Lord will blot out their names from under heaven.
- Deuteronomy 29:19-20
(God doesn’t burn you and curse you because he’s angry with you. You burn and curse yourself by feeling that you are separate from Him… by not trusting His callings in your heart and not trusting that He will guide and protect you. By trying to “go your own way.” That’s the separate, afraid ego.)
Actions Motivated By Love:
- “I love doing this!”
- “Wow! I’m so excited!”
- “Let’s do this!”
- “This feels so calm, peaceful, and relaxing!”
- I don’t have to if I don’t want to.
- I’ll be okay either way.
- I’m free to choose what feels best for me.
- God will take care of the details, I just have to trust Him.
- “Wow! This feels really good!”
- “I really enjoy this :)”
So, remember to read the descriptions in Deuteronomy 28-30 to see how your life will look if you are being pushed by fear versus if you are being drawn by Love.
>> here’s a practical guide for acting on your Highest Excitement so that you can be aligned w/ God
>> and also my new playlist for following your highest excitement your life
Yielding To God
This is literally exactly what I’ve been talking about in my recent videos… I’ve been going through deeper and deeper levels of awakening where I’m realizing the power of “yielding to God.”
Your Highest Excitement = the power of the Holy Spirit (God’s communication to you through the feeling of LOVE)
The only question left:
“Am I acting out of excitement? Or anxiety?”
Another way to phrase that is:
“Am I moving towards love? Or away from fear?”
Check in with your state of being before you take any action… ask yourself:
“What’s driving me to take this action?”
If it’s fear, anxiety, worry, the burden of responsibility, a sense of duty, the need to “make everything happen yourself…”
Then you’ve been caught by a pendulum… and are stuck in survival consciousness.
The trick is realize that you are not the one who “makes things happen” in your life.
God does.
Place your hand over your heart and feel it beating.
Ask yourself:
“Am I making my heart beat right now??”
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Who’s beating your heart?
You think you are that one who is “in charge” of your survival… so you worry all day… thinking that if you don’t “figure things out”… you’ll die.
Meanwhile… the whole time… your heart is being beaten by some unknown force.
Don’t you think that same force that is powerful enough to *design and incarnate your entire body, breath, and being* (not to mention the entire manifest world) … is also intelligent enough to run your little life?
“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?
- Matthew 6:25
Listen to your Highest Excitement… that’s God speaking to you through the feeling of LOVE. 😁❤️🙏🏻
Worship The Divine
Worship the Divine.
See Her Majesty so fully and completely that you become absolutely nothing in Her presence.
Small, useless, and insignificant.
That’s your rightful place in the presence of the Divine.
O God, what a Perfect Creation you have made!
How did it get so miraculous?
How did I think… for even one second… that my puny mind could control any of it?
When I am face-to-face with Your Majesty… I cannot help but be overtaken by Love.
O God, thank you for allowing me to see that I am completely useless on my own.
Thank you for helping me understand that it is by You, that I live.
Thank you for breathing my breaths, thinking my thoughts, and knowing my heart.
For, it is by being small, that I may become great,
By being weak, that I may become strong,
By surrendering, that I may gain Ultimate Power
By being nothing, that I may become You.
Linda! Listen to me!
This video went viral a long time ago.
It’s this cute 3-year old kid arguing with his mom saying: “Linda! Listen to me!”
But, notice that she isn’t actually listening to him.
Unconscious adults make the mistake of thinking that their kids are stupid.
LISTEN TO ME 😉
Your kids are NOT STUPID!!!!!!!!!!!
They deserve the exact same amount of respect that you would give to any other adult.
Look at the mom’s classic argument at the end:
“I’m the adult and you’re the child so you should listen to me or I’m going to spank you.”
But, unfortunately, what Linda doesn’t understand, is that just because this little dude is 3 years old, that doesn’t mean he doesn’t deserve to feel seen, heard, and respected.
This doesn’t mean you have to let your kids walk all over you…
but you have to develop the emotional maturity to be able to hold space for what they’re trying to communicate to you… and genuinely hear it.
This video had comments turned off… but I already know that there were TONS of comments along the lines of:
“Wow! This kid is such a brat! This mom must have it so hard!”
IDIOT!
That’s the exactly incorrect way to think about this situation.
Your kid is literally a mirror of you.
Look at what the kid is doing:
He’s literally just mirroring her own attitude back to her.
HE’S NOT BEING LISTENED TO!!!
Remember:
if your kids aren’t listening to you…
it’s probably because YOU AREN’T LISTENING TO THEM!
I bet you didn’t think of that, did you? You selfish ego.
😜