Adam’s Journey
Chapter 1: Meeting the Guide
There I was…
crying my eyes out at 3am in the morning
completely exhausted from:
- playing video games
- smoking weed
- eating junkfood
- watching p*rn
the ENTIRE night.
Why was I crying?
Because I hated myself.
These were the only 4 activities that occupied my free time.
Sure, that’s pretty normal for a 16-year old kid…
but still, something felt deeply wrong.
I hated getting EXTREMELY ANGRY at my video game… to the point where I’d type out death threats to random strangers.
I hated hearing the birds chirp in the morning… knowing that I haven’t slept a wink.
I hated having low-energy all the time, feeling groggy and being a d*ck to my friends and family.
But most of all… I hated feeling like I was wasting my precious life.
But… I didn’t do anything about it.
The cheap hits of dopamine were too easy… so I kept drowning out the pain.
It wasn’t until a girl from my highschool broke up with me… that I finally had enough.
“WTF is WRONG with me!?”
I thought…
“I have actually fix my problems.“
So, I searched “how to be attractive” on YouTube…
and stumbled upon some skinny-looking bald guy with big teeth and a bad attitude.
His name was “Leo, from Actualized.org” and he explained things to me in a way I never heard before:
He told me that if I wanted to become an attractive person, I had to actually grow myself in a deep and meaningful way.
That meant…
NO QUICK FIXES!!
NO SHORTCUTS!!
NO EASY SOLUTIONS!!
Just good-quality, strategic personal development that is grounded in a 10-20 year vision.
He told me that humans always want to get quick results… without having to work for it.
We always do the bare-minimum necessary to survive and get by.
He told me that if I wanted to seperate myself from the crowd—to create a truly extraordinary life—then I had to do the opposite of what everyone else around me was doing.
That meant committing to the lifelong process of self-mastery… and working at it proactively… little by little each day.
Doing things like:
- daily meditation
- studying literally 100s of diverse perspectives (by reading at least 1 non-fiction book per month, see Adam’s book list for details)
- discovering my Life’s purpose
- journalling
- cleaning up my diet, exercising
- quitting addictions
- creating a strong morning routine
- questioning my core beliefs and assumptions about life
- discovering my strengths, values, and personality type
- visualizing my goals
- working on my social skills
- going on meditation retreats
- visiting seminars and workshops
- listening to audiobooks and audio programs
- hiring coaches
- developing self-acceptance and self-love
and more (see the “start here” section for more details)…
